ATTRACTING YOUR SOULMATE
As a professional life alignment coach, it’s my job & mission to help people shift into the highest version of themselves by shedding & releasing what is holding them back in order to attract everything they desire.
One of the most common areas I help clients with is relationships & attracting their soulmate. This topic lights me up so much because it is every human's birthright to experience true love & partnership. We are authentically magnetic matches for our soulmates, but after years of programming & conditioning telling us otherwise - it puts blocks & barriers in the way!
If you’re reading this, then chances are you are ready & looking to bring in your dream partner. Notice that I called this attracting your soulmate - because that is exactly what you have to do - ATTRACT. No chasing and no forcing. True love will never have to be controlled, manipulated or forced (remember that).
If you are:
Surrounded by other couples in love and wishing you had that for yourself
Triggered on social media when you see another engagement asking yourself when it will be your turn
Starting to lose faith & trust that your soulmate is out there for you
Feeling like you are way behind in life because you're not married yet and still in the dating game
Jaded by relationships because your past ones lacked the “spark” or conviction that this person is meant for you
Generally just not happy with the person you’re currently with, have an intuitive pull that there is someone else out there for you, and feel like you might be settling right now.
Then get ready because I am about to SHIFT your mindset and give you actionable steps to take to start calling in your person.
By the way, before we dive in, I want to be very clear on 2 things …
YOUR SOULMATE IS OUT THERE WAITING FOR YOU. THEY ACTUALLY DO EXIST.
you wouldn't have a dream or craving of being with a soulmate if it wasn't possible for you.
THAT CRAZY BEAUTIFUL KIND OF LOVE IS OUT THERE. IT DOES EXIST AND IT IS WORTH THE WAIT
stop settling for good or fine partners/relationships when amazing ones are out there waiting for you)
Okay, now let’s get into it. Here’s what I want you to start doing & practicing…
Start believing that you are 1000% worthy of finding and having your dream partner
If you don't believe that you are good enough, pretty enough, smart enough to have a soulmate then guess what kind of energy you are emitting into the universe? (hint: it's not good) Life will continue to mirror instances back to you that make you feel even more unworthy. This will manifest as bad dates, ghosting, rejection, or maybe even a parent telling you to hurry up and settle down already.
Believe they are on their way
Wake up every single day and pretend that the universe placed an order for your soulmate. Knowing that they are on their way to you RIGHT NOW and that they will be arriving at the perfect time. All you have to do is be yourself. Remember when you were little and it was the day before Christmas or your birthday and you were SO excited because you KNEW you were getting presents tomorrow? Start channeling THAT kind of energy.
Practice self-love daily
Fall more and more in love with yourself . The funny thing about love is that no one can give it to us - they can only evoke the love that is already inside of us. So the more you prioritize loving yourself - the more open & available you will be to experiencing and attracting love.
Focus on things that light you up & start romanticizing your life
Without getting too spiritual or scientific - the more you focus on what makes you happy the more you raise your vibration and then you will become an energetic match for your soulmate to come into your life. Focus on the good & the good gets better.
Create space
It's possible that your soulmate is waiting for you, but can't come into your life yet because there's no space! This can be because maybe you haven't processed a past lover or you are still hurt from past situations. Download the wisdom or why you had to go through what you did - gain the insight and move on.
RELEASE what is no longer serving you
If you are still “chit chatting” people that you know for a fact are not your person you are signaling to the universe that you are not ready for your soulmate to come in. It is time to let them go for your highest good.
FEEL
Get out a journal and ask yourself:
Why you want a relationship (jot down first things that come up)
How you want to feel when you're in this new relationship
What are some ways you stop yourself from receiving this feeling that you crave?
What are some ways you can give this feeling to yourself?
This is important because it can show us where we block ourselves from receiving love. The answers to this highlight the ways we protect ourselves when we were younger in order to get our needs met. It's no longer an effective mechanism at this point in our lives.
FORGIVE
Forgive yourself over and over again. Maybe you feel like you’re not deserving of a soulmate because of something that happened in your past or something that someone told you before. Forgive yourself as many times as it takes.
Say out loud “I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that I'm not ___ enough to have a soul mate, the truth is ___” fill in your truth. Example: I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that I’m not worthy enough to have a soulmate, the truth is I am perfect the way I am and my soulmate loves me for me.
Be so happy with who you are & what you have NOW
Stop feeling like you have to change in order for this person to come in - lose weight, fix your skin, upgrade your style etc - your soulmate will love you for who you are regardless of any flaw you believe you have. You are perfect the way you are.
Inquire
If you feel like you are not good enough to have a soulmate for any reason keep asking yourself WHY you feel this way - when did this limiting belief begin? Is it new or old?
Whenever the belief starts to come up - become aware of it and stop it in its tracks with a positive affirmation - something like “I am worthy of having everything I desire & more” “My authenticity is my superpower” “What’s meant for me will never bypass me” “the universe is always conspiring in my favor.” Work on disempowering that belief.
Last tip: Start making dating FUN again! Get excited for dates, allow people to set you up, buy yourself a new outfit - whatever it takes to make it FUN & allow yourself to play. Remember that every time it doesn't work out with someone that you are one step closer to meeting your PERSON! Oh and if someone rejects you, ghosts you or tells you it's not going to work out, instead of getting down on yourself thank the universe for seeing something you didn’t and interfering so you can now become available for your soulmate.
The universe will bring you your soulmate at the perfect time in the most unexpected yet perfect way. Affirm it & believe it.
Xx
Alissa
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If you’re ready to collapse the timeline and do some deep unblocking work so you can attract your partner quicker, book an intro call with me and let’s discuss ways we can work together!